Published inLuminusCoach·Oct 19, 2021The Power and Value of Remorse — Part 3 of 3Remorse kicks Regret’s ass every time — Welcome to the third and last part of what remorse teaches us. A quick recap… Remorse taps you on the shoulder and asks you to be whole and undivided. It taps your other shoulder and invites you to a self-reflective inquiry into your way of being human. “Do I have…Personal Development6 min readPersonal Development6 min read
Aug 24, 2021Our Unnatural Attachment to FamilyThe Child’s Death Gives Rise to The Adult’s Birth — The human’s idea of Life does not exist without the meaning we give Death. The fullness of Life and our regrets in Life are constructs defined by Death. Sometimes humans assign Life as good and Death as bad. In reality, Life and Death are two aspects of a singularity union…Mwc Death10 min readMwc Death10 min read
Published inLuminusCoach·Aug 20, 2021The Power and Value of Remorse — Part 2 of 3Remorse kicks Regret’s ass every time — Part one of this post introduced the distinction between regret (guilt) and remorse. As a quick recap, that distinction looks like this: Regret — self-focused and a lack of ownership of impact Remorse — both self and other focused and a shift in how you do human Both have a…Remorse4 min readRemorse4 min read
Published inLuminusCoach·Jul 31, 2021The Power and Value of Remorse — Part 1 of 3Remorse kicks Regret’s ass every time — What I love about remorse is how it differs vastly from regret or guilt and how remorse invites us beyond the self. Remorse calls you into a deep reflection or contemplation without judgment. Regret and guilt are selfish and self-centered, remorse transcends the self. Regret and guilt are an utter…Remorse4 min readRemorse4 min read
Published inLuminusCoach·Jul 8, 2021Can You Force Wisdom?Whence Doth Thy Wisdom Come? — You may have heard a saying, “knowing others is wisdom; knowing the self is enlightenment.” Or “it takes intelligence to know others and wisdom to know self.” These versions are from the Tao Te Ching. Socrates has offered “to know thyself is the beginning of wisdom.” The metaphor here can…Personal Development4 min readPersonal Development4 min read
Published inLuminusCoach·Jul 4, 2021Coaching (leading, teaching, parenting) is NOT about powerful questionsYou’re excited to begin your coaching journey and a little nervous. You may wonder to yourself and out loud to others, “how do I do this powerful question thing I keep hearing about?!” You try not to panic or “mess it up” the first time you ask “powerful questions” with…Metaphor3 min readMetaphor3 min read
Jan 8, 2021Nourish The PeopleI do not condone the actions of the humans who stormed the U.S Capitol. Neither do I condemn them. We must learn to develop an ability to wonder beyond the unconscious, automatic judgements we are so easy to blabber about. We must rise above automatic unconscious condemnation. Discernment, anyone? Discern…Politics4 min readPolitics4 min read
Aug 29, 2020The World is Not VUCA, But You Are“We live in a VUCA world”. If you are in the “agile”, “leadership” or business space you may have heard this a few times and some courses teach this. Here is the good news. The world is not VUCA. But you are. Other humans trained you to be “vuca”. We…Personal Development8 min readPersonal Development8 min read
Apr 3, 2019How to be “Selfish” … for LifeWhat does it mean to be “selfish”? I was recently labeled “selfish” by a fellow human, and it prompted my wanting to write about it. Hmmm … I wonder if my wanting to write about it would be considered selfish. According to the etymology and Oxford dictionary, Selfish = (of…Life Lessons17 min readLife Lessons17 min read
